Friday, July 11, 2008

Great post

I have been meaning to provide a linkie to this post for awhile now. Oh, how I can relate to aspiring to minimum maintenance mode, especially right now. I definitely aspire to get more done around here, and to do certain things with higher quality control, but my dedication to those aspirations varies every day. I keep making plans to organize my whole house before the baby comes. Then my ankles start swelling and a new part of me starts hurting (or I have a bad night of sleep), so I plop down on the couch to watch SYTYCD and congratulate myself on making chicken nuggets with tator tots for dinner.



Maybe tomorrow.....

7 comments:

Christie said...

I liked the first part of it, but then it started getting into stuff I can't really relate to. I really like cooking and make homemade bread even when my house is a total disaster (it usually is). I don't feel that guilty most days. I aspire to one load of laundry, one load of dishes, all three of us dressed, and one hot meal. That is a successful day. I know I would do more if Amelia would let me, and I really hope that day is coming soon. But in the meantime I just focus on staying happy and keeping my girls happy.

mom and grandma of BOLTON BUNCH said...

Katie, thanks for the link to that great post. It made me smile. I do remember reading books like that and feeling the same- wanting to be like that and feeling guilt for not being like that. It is nice to be a "senior" now. I use the senior excuse to say, it doesn't matter, I'm not trying to impress anyone, I've done "my time" and I now allow myself more of the simple pleasures in life, like grandchildren. My grandkids certainly get a much bigger break from me than my kids did about cleaning up and such. And I now know it is okay to have a simple dinner on paper plates and it won't make them think anything less of me. It is true, when I am in the mood to cook a nice meal and use real dishes, they ask who is coming to dinner, but that's okay too. On those days I am able to tell them that it is just because our family is so special. My priorities and choices have changed majorly since my kids have grown up and I realized they survived my mother-madness days. My kids may not be where i want them all to be in life, but they all are doing okay and are happy in their lives, so I can now see that we don't have to do everything perfect for our kids, they will not only survive our "failures", they will appreciate them. You young mothers keep doing what you are doing and don't "sweat the little things".
I love you all and I am proud of you.

Linda, Mom and Granny said...

Everyone knew I wasn't a perfect homemaker, but my kids turned out preety good!

I had a few Daryl Hoole's books. I liked some of her ideas, when I got over feeling guilty.

Her minimum maintenance was my maxium! maintenance!! (Unless Nana was visiting!)

Kari said...

Thanks for introducing me to a great blog, Katie. Love her comment on "ceasing all doily-making until further notice!" It cracked me up. I'm pretty much done with guilt these days. I bake, like Christy, when I want to. I count a day with mostly happy kids a success, no matter what we've eaten and what the house looks like. I figure guilt is Satan's biggest tool for tripping up well-meaning moms.

Katie said...

Kari and Christie - I think you are so right. For the most part I manage to feel non-guilty on most days. The things that I manage to get done are usually the things that I deep down care most about (or get some enjoyment out of), rather than the things that I "should" care about. It has been surprising to me to realize some of the things I do care about though. Like having the laundry done and organized and a pretty tidy house. Things like that contribute greatly to my personal sanity, which is really crazy considering what a natural slob I am.

Christie said...

Oh, I definitely feel better when the house is clean. No doubt about it. It just isn't within my reach at the moment.

The Jeppson Bunch said...

I hate the guilt trips. I really do! And my house is a messy usually. I can not quilt, I do not make lace, I do not bake my own bread... but I do make a mean retaining wall out of HUGE pieces of slate! I would go to enrichment more if they talked about things like, "How to keep your retaining wall from falling over", "the best way to backfill dirt of minimum errosion", "how to grill a mean steak", "tile: do it yourself", "Playset assembly:101"! Sometimes I beat myself up about the things I do not do, and then I realize I actually do more than most women... I just do OTHER things! I don't fit the "Mormon Mold", and sometimes I wish I could do things other women do, but then sometimes I realize I probably do things that other things that other people wish they could do! We all have our different strengths!